Not What You Would Expect From Me
It’s 10am on a chilly Saturday morning, wearing all black, looking out my glass windows onto the commercial gym across my apartment.
I can faintly see someone on the treadmill. “Can they see me?” I sip my morning drink, “the cayenne pepper is just right.”
Back to that person at the gym, maybe it’s their first time there, maybe it’s their 3rd month showing up consistently. I don’t know, but what I know for sure is - they care about their health and how they look.
How do people perceive you?
I know we say what people think about you is none of your business, this holds true when you get to Elon Musk level in life or Djokovic where you can actually afford to not give a f$ck. No, I’m not preaching that you become a doormat. Hear me out.
Caring about what others think has roots in your biology and evolutionary history. You are inherently a social creature, and your survival has historically depended on your ability to function within groups.
People will want to be associated with you, if they perceive you a certain way.
↳You will get your dream man/woman if you are perceived as trustworthy
↳You will be given business if you are perceived as confident
↳You will be hired if you are perceived as dependable
I want to teach you how to use this to your advantage.
When someone glances at you what is their perception of you?
A complete stranger in this case - as I am to the man on the treadmill.
I would say it largely depends on how you look and what you are doing.
↳If you overweight you lack self discipline and don’t care about your health
↳If you are underweight you are weak or have health issues
↳If you walk slouched - you lack of confidence
↳If you are at the gym you care about your health
↳If you are meditating you are a calm person
↳If you walk upright you are confident
↳If you are late you are disorganised
↳If you are reading you are smart
↳If you frown you are mean
↳If you smile you are a nice
How do you think people perceive you vs how do you want people to perceive you?
I would urge you to create a list.
Eg If you want people to perceive you as approachable …smile, open body language, offer help, etc
The trick here is to act in ways that make those perceptions a reality. With time, you will become that person.
↳A person who attracts opportunities
↳A person considered lucky
Your success depends on winning the trust of others. While you are in the process of winning the trust of others, you also win your own. The result is that people are now willing to share opportunities with you and support you.
Here’s a caveat though: Only care about what people you admire think. Not everyone in your life has the ‘range’ to share opinions on certain things. Eg don’t take marriage advice from a single person, don’t take parenting advice from someone who has no children etc etc
What do you think?
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